So we've spent some time talking about divorce this week. Fun subject. The closer i get to marriage the more nervous i get about divorce. That's not to say i have no hope when i start my marriage, i seriously just think that divorce is like one of my worst fears. I can handle death of a spouse, as tramatic as that would be. But i could live with knowing that my spouse, had he had had the choice, would have decided to stay with me. I just have nightmares thinking, that maybe i married the wrong person, or that they turned out to be someone different than i thought, or things got to bad that we both just gave up, or maybe he just gave up on us.
I dont seem to see alot of good things that come out of a divorce; there always seems to be bitterness from one person to the other, the kids are definately affected, friends, other family. It just seems like everyone takes a hit from it.
I know marriage wont be easy, not a piece of cake, and no walk in the park, but i feel like we as a society have deemed divorce as an appropriate way to get out of fixable things. We dont have the same interests like we used to, so we get divorced, we had all these kids and were still not happy, we get divorced, were having problems with money, we get divorced. Now i understand, that abuse and infidelity are seperate cases, but i think the majority of those getting divorced these days are doing it over silliness.
The covenants that were made are forgotten, and the strength behind the covenant isnt exercised, thus resulting in a weak marriage. Divorce has just become focused on what's more convenient for the parents, and the kids have turned into property. I think marriages need to be re-evaluated often and can be fixed and strengthened. But we have to have the determination when we get into it, to make it work. otherwise we'll take the easy way out.
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