Alright, so i can't here the bells. But we talked a butt load about weddings, receptions, marriage and babies this week in class. I guess I am at that age, although I don't feel too marriage hungry or baby hungry. First, this week we talked in class about how we want the proposal to go for us. I already know i do NOT want some big and public scene. I feel like those are SO awkward and you feel obligated to say yes. Hopefully you would want to say yes, regardless of how the situation presented itself, but just saying. I cant have my fiance proposing to me through a scavenger hunt or having 100 other random people drag me around town and do things to me that remind us of everything that we have ever done together ( no offense to anyone that has been proposed to this way, its just not my style). I just want something cute, romantic, but simple with the two of us. And i dont need the whole family hiding somewhere videotaping the whole thing either. I want to be able to tell them first, and not have them know before me.
Alright, onto the reception. I feel like there are so many ways to have a cheap yet classy reception. Br. Williams shared a great example of a couple that had been cohabiting for years just so they could save up to have their huge expensive wedding. He told them to just ask for a little help and see what others would be willing to do. And they threw a wedding together in 2 months. I think we are put into wards for that exact reason, to help one another and use your talents where others may lack. There has got to be someone in each ward that could offer their backyard for a recpetion, take a few pictures, do the bride's hair, make some food, help with sending out invitations and announcements. I think as you divide up the work, then its not as overwhelming.The important thing is that both the groom and bride's needs are met and they get to make the decisions together. Plus, they have so many ways to make things look so classy but for so cheap. You dont need to spend $20,000 or even $ 5,000 on a wedding.
And finally, The baby blues. I've heard about them. Dont know too much about them from personal experience. But i have been learning alot about this in my Pschology class right now. We have talked about how alot of women go into post pardum depression after having a baby, and that it can cause alot of stress on the marriage. I think firts off, part of the problem is, everyone talks about being a parent as the best experience, and most rewarding, but no one really talks about how hard it is and what a life changing adjustment it is. Mom is going through so many challenges physically, emotionally, mentally. She feels fat, shes exhausted, but needs to tend to this baby 24/7 and is thinking "Is there something wrong with me? everyone said this was going to be the best, but i'm not seeing what they were talking about." Then you have dad who is probably working full time, and is only home in the evening, and all you want to do is go to bed. He wants to help but doesn't know how exactly. There is certain things that he can't do for the baby because only mom can do them.. Then perhaps he starts to feel a little foresaken and a little jealous of baby as silly as that sounds. I think it is ao important that you and your spouse talk about how you are going to work together and give and take when this baby comes into the picture. Things may change because it wasnt how you expected but be flexible and patient. You're both going through a new phase and neither of you have really had experience with it.
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